Secretly Incredible.

Sitting in a local restaurant, our waitress ignored us.

We made our usual order and she brought out things that were totally different.

She stared at her cell phone and only came back to our table to give us a check for a meal we didn’t request.

He looked across the table at me, “I want to bless her.”

“Bless her out?” I said.

“No, I want to leave a good tip.”I rolled my eyes. He wrote a note of blessing for her on the back of the receipt with a $40 tip hidden under it. We hardly had enough money to be eating there, but he blessed her anyways, and rushed us out the door before she would notice we did anything.

We were house sitting for a family one year after Thanksgiving. They warned us the house was a mess. They had a little one who was barely 2 and rushed out the door for their trip trying not to think about their house being messy.

He wanted to clean their house. Top to bottom, iron clothes, wash sheets, clean dishes, and set up a full meal for them to have that was easy to pop in the oven when they got home from there trip.

Oh, and scoot out the door before they got home.

We did it, but he swore it wasn’t his idea.

He heard once that my brother in law didn’t get a specific action figure one year for christmas when he a little boy. So when he turned 28, he bought him that exact figurine and made my no-emotion-brother-in-law consider weeping.

He loves surprises, the kind where you drive 8 hours to surprise someone on their birthday, or just because. Especially his mama, he loves his mama.

We once had a neighbor who thought her cat was choking. She called him. He went. The cat lived and our neighbor appreciated him a little more that day.

He once walked 6 miles in the snow to ask me to prom. He surprise me the day I moved into my new dorm room in a town 5 hours away from him just to help me move in.  He drove back a few weeks later because “He just wanted to see me in person”. 5 hours there, 30 minutes with me, 5 hours home.

He will be slammed with all aspects of life and not a single word of complaint fall from his lips.  He will have worked around the clock, but a friend or family member needs help moving something and he goes to help.

I once bought a chair with money we didn’t have because I thought it was cute. He was frustrated with me, but drove in the rain to pick it up. Because that’s just what he does.

A friend of ours was a little down during a season of life in college and he was in need of someone to walk as his escort for homecoming. I couldn’t do it, so he asked her. Not just with words, with balloons and confetti and large signs and streamers hanging from her ceiling fan. She cried a little.

We sold our house and made enough money profit to pay off all our debt, but he wanted to give away 10%. I rolled my eyes, but when the Lord came back and blessed us 10 fold from that, I just looked at him as he grinned his “see, I told you” grin.

His roommate in college struggled with anxiety, so he drew out the armor of God on their bathroom mirror in dry erase marker so that every morning when his roommate looked in the mirror, he knew he was strong.

One year in college, everyone forgot his birthday. I am talking everyone except his mom.  My sister was married on his birthday and I even forgot about it.  But he celebrated everyone else that year, maybe more than ever before. Because, that’s who he is.

He can fix everything… EVERYTHING, not because he knows how but because he isn’t afraid to try.  And people know he will try for them, honor them, and it will be no surprise that he does it with a smile on his face.

He reads new books every week on how to be a good friend, manager of money, husband, and how to run business. He has handled failure with grace and stayed a constant encourager in more ways than describable.

His favorite movie is Remember The Titans, he loves cinnamon rolls for breakfast with a glass of cold milk. He wants so much to meet Dave Ramsey and might pass out if Chris Stapleton was anywhere near him. Fried okra is the way to his heart and his mama’s sweet tea is his favorite drink. He loves watching blooper reels of “The Office” on youtube because seeing other people laugh makes him laugh… and when we watch the actual episode he will make me rewind it to the part where you can “kind of tell they were about to laugh, because they had to do that take a lot. It was on the blooper reel.” He loves connection with people but tends to be the last to speak up. He will always be the guy that makes the quiet jokes and if you’re lucky enough to sit by him, you’ll catch it. He doesn’t like attention on himself but he deserves full reward for his kindness, goodness, hard work ethic, positivity, and love.

To my incredible husband, who exudes Christ in ALL ways.

I love you beyond words.

Cody love, you are my delight and joy in this life.

Here’s to 26.

And 100 more years of watching you be secretly incredible.



Photos by: Nalin Crocker

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